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The path to growth, strength and happiness is paved with self-doubt, insecurity and lessons learned. I know, this sounds a lot like psychobabble and not like a MomGonePaleo nutritional rant at all. That’s because this post is about finding strength, understanding what hard really is and accomplishing things you never thought you ever could. Nutritional advice, education and support is useless unless your head and your heart are in the right place to receive it.

As you may know by now, I am a single mom of 2 amazing kids. I’m in my early 40’s with a demanding career, a demanding home life, and a passion for health and fitness. Right about now I can honestly say I am in love with my life and even more so with where I want it go from here.  But I wasn’t always this way. I was married at 24, because it seemed like a good idea at the time. I had 2 kids by the time I was 29 and my marriage was falling apart. I didn’t marry a bad guy; I married the wrong guy. I was sad, terrified, insecure, angry, lost, overweight after 2 kids and quite frankly, broken.  I was nowhere near the person I am today.

I tell you this to clear something up.  Those who have gotten to know me since my divorce seem to think that I am this strong, driven woman and that this MomGonePaleo thing is yet another example of Laura trying to do it all because that is just the way she is. That I am this type A- show no fear-kind of personality seems to be the prevailing opinion.  This is something that came up at work today over lunch and I have had it! Those who have known me my whole life will tell you I wasn’t like that growing up at all! I was going to be an elementary school teacher. I was going to eventually be a stay at home mom. What changed? I became a mom and when my marriage failed, I needed a new game plan or I was going to become a cliché.

So what the hell does this have to do with living Paleo? It doesn’t, not really. Except that people always ask me, “You’re so disciplined! Isn’t that kind of diet really hard?”   My answer is unequivocally, NO! You know what’s hard?

  • Having to tell my children that Daddy is moving out.
  • Leaving my kids with someone else so I can go back to work to support us.
  • Managing a full-time job on 4 hours of sleep because my kids were little and still don’t sleep through the night yet.
  • Missing Mommy and Me day at school because I had to work.
  • Struggling through my day with a headache so bad I couldn’t think straight.
  • Respiratory inflammation so bad I couldn’t stop coughing.
  • Battling chronic anxiety so bad it made me cry, but I had to cry in secret so I wouldn’t scare my kids.

That is nothing compared to what is REALLY hard like:

  • Beating cancer
  • Overcoming a drug addiction
  • Watching someone you love pass away, especially when it was avoidable.
  • Living with a chronic disease that makes living day-to-day miserable

All of these are conditions my loved ones or I could have been living with if I didn’t decide to take the easy way out. So, no, living and eating Paleo is not hard. Living Paleo is the easy way out.  “Hard” and “Easy” are both relative terms. Hard relative to what? Relative to driving through McDonalds? (I’d rather be hungry.) Easy relative to what? Relative to planning ahead so McDonald’s isn’t your only option? At the end of the day it comes down to choices. Look, there are always those instances when you get caught and are stuck with less than awesome choices and where easy or hard are irrelevant. I’m not talking about the 10-20% of the time when no matter how hard you try, life gets in the way.  Do the best you can and move on.

10 years ago, I chose to leave a bad marriage. I chose to pursue a career I knew would be hard but would help me support my kids. I chose to stop the raging river of drugs I was using to manage the symptoms of the stress I was under and decided to take the easy way out. I chose to start really living, really eating, and exercising like I really mean it.  Everyday is a choice to change the definition of hard and accomplish something that surprises not just those around you but also yourself.

Please, please, please, get this into your head and into your heart: feeding yourself the best you can and exercising like you mean it IS NOT HARD.  Now that that excuse has been put to rest the only thing left to do is to take that step and choose strength and happiness because the alternative is much harder in the long run.

 

Until Next Time,

~ Laura, MGP

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3 Responses to “Living Paleo isn’t hard. (Not when you know what hard really is)”

  1. Mom of the Paleo Mom says:

    well said darlin!
    Mom

  2. Lori says:

    Thank you for keepin it real–I’ve had to reread this a couple times to remind myself–everyones struggles are real but some are reallly real !!–love the post <3

    • Momgonepaleo says:

      Hi Lori!

      Thanks for reading and thanks for the feedback. Keeps me going knowing someone out there is reading and getting something positive out of it. Thanks again!

      ~ Laura

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